Personal development is as old as Plato and Aristotle. In fact, many societies considered it the only true vocation. They also believed that the study and application of philosophy were the best methods for achieving personal development.
Various cultures and individuals throughout history have discussed and studied the need for and ways to achieve personal development. At times, it has been called “virtues” or “moral character,” and in others, it is referred to as “ethics.” Christianity has been concerned with the “moral development” of individuals and took their “virtues” from the Bible. These are Faith, Hope, and charity or love/agape.
Virtue as defined by ancient Greeks was: The commitment to “habitual excellence”.
In most cases, the primary concern was “personal development.” Each defined ways and means of achieving this development. Aristotle believed achieving the “golden mean” between a trait and its opposite was necessary. Take Aristotle’s example of courage. “Courage is the balance between cowardice (deficit of courage) and foolhardiness (excess of courage).” So, Aristotle’s Golden Mean would lie in the middle between these two extremes, but it would be closer to “foolhardiness than cowardice.”
Benjamin Franklin developed a 13-week system in which he concentrated on one character trait per week. Below are the traits he considered most important for him to work towards to be successful.
Character Traits
Self-control: be determined and disciplined in your efforts.
Silence: listen better in all discussions.
Order: don’t agonize-organize.
Pledge: promise to put your best effort into today’s activities.
Thrift: watch how you spend your money and your time.
Productivity: work hard, smart-have fun.
Fairness: treat others the way you want to be treated.
Moderation: avoid extremes.
Cleanliness: have a clean mind, body, and habits.
Tranquility: take time to slow down and “smell the roses.”
Charity: help others.
Humility: keep your ego in check.
Sincerity: be honest with yourself and others.
These are just brief examples of the history of “character development” or “personal development.” It is beyond the scope of this article to provide a history of personal development, but I can give a brief discussion of what personal development means to me.
In his book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, Stephen Covey discusses the evolution of “personal development”. In one section, he talks about his personal development study and makes significant observations. He maintains that before the 1920s and 1930s, personal development was defined as “Character Development.” Ben Franklin’s list of character traits highlights the idea that a person must develop their “character.”
However, in the 1920’s and after, he states that the focus of personal development changed from character development to “personality development”. The focus of development changed from inner development to the outer traits of a person or personality traits, such as a “pleasing personality” or “having a positive personality.” With this as a guideline, it isn’t essential if we genuinely have an upbeat or pleasing personality; it is more important to “act” as we have them. Mr. Covey maintains that this translates into other virtues and traits we end up with all flash and no substance.
Mr. Covey provides several examples of this and uses then-President Clinton and other politicians as examples. Instead of “being” honest or committed to excellence and integrity, they decided that “acting” honest or acting as a person with integrity was more important because they then appealed to the broadest possible voter base.
I went through treatment for alcoholism in 1977 and again in 1978. This March, I celebrated 30 years of being clean and sober. When I first sobered up in 1978, self-help groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous exploded on the American scene.
Since then, we have numerous groups that fashioned themselves after Alcoholics Anonymous, adopting and changing A.A.’s Twelve Steps to fit their particular problem.
However, at the base of all is “personal or character” development. Bill Wilson, co-founder of A.A., says in his book, “As Bill See’s It”, “the main purpose of the 12 Steps of A.A, is “character development”. He goes on to say, “but who wants to talk of or work on their “character”? He also maintains that A.A. is a spiritual kindergarten. While the primary purpose of A.A. is abstinence from alcohol, Mr. Wilson maintains that the only way to obtain that goal is by committing, one day at a time, to the development of our character.
This is true of the other self-help programs which use Alcoholics Anonymous as their foundation.
On a personal level, a couple of months ago, my son, who is 14 years old, teased me about the “self-help” books I read. I told him that he should be thankful that I have continued reading and using those books because if I hadn’t, his life and mine would be entirely different, and not in a good way.
In my experience, personal improvement encompasses the improvement of lives—mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. An old A.A. is saying, “If you’re not going forward in your life, you’re going backward.” This means that there is no status quo. We can’t rest on our laurels or what we did yesterday. As Ben Franklin showed, personal improvement is a lifetime activity, and if we continue to pursue excellence, we are at the mercy of mediocrity.
One person pointed out, “If we are not pursuing our own goals, we are working towards somebody else’s goals.”
Personal development provides meaning to my life and gives me a yardstick to measure my progress. What is personal development? When I first sobered up, I went to a meeting where two boards were on the wall behind the speakers.
On one board were listed about 20 different positive character traits, such as courage, integrity, patience, gratitude, determination, persistence, etc. On the other board were listed their opposites.
At least once a week, during the meeting, my sponsor would lean over and quietly ask me, “Which side of the board are you on?”
A commitment to personal development ensures I stay on the right side of the board!